Drawing the Line
Where do you draw the line between new boyfriends and ex boyfriends? With new boyfriends, you are normally so in love you could care less about your ex. What happens when your ex isn’t a bad person but you just didn’t work? And you own a dog together, which he gave you in the break up. So you, your dog and your shit leave and move on to bigger and better things. And a new boyfriend enters. The ex reemerges asking about the dog and wanting to see her once in a while. Dilemma. If you were single, this wouldn’t matter as much. No one’s feelings would be at stake but your own. But there is a new boyfriend. And you don’t want to hurt him. Where do you draw the line? A strong no and move on with your life?
Where is my life manual on how to deal with these shitty situations?
posted @2:32 PM
3 Comments:
hmmm, a couple of options.
I had one friend who after a divorce, managed to go back and forth with the dog for a couple of years. It wasn't fun, for either one. But it was done as they had the dog together for 10 years - ya, slightly different than your situation..
but really? if it makes you uncomfy - just say to him that it's easier if you can just keep the dog for yourself and that it's easier for him to get a new dog cause you're trying to get your life in order and you don't want to complicate it with having visitation with your ex.
You guys weren't together long enough that this should be an issue - i would hope ;) but then again, nothing is really ever that simple, is it... :)
Is there a way for your ex to spend time with the dog without you having to hand the dog off to him? As long as you don't have to see each other, your boyfriend should be okay with that scenario, right?
As for explaining why you don't want to see him, just tell Whitey that you think it would be healthier for each of you if you didn't see each other right now. That way, no one gets hurt and everyone's happy...including your dog! :)
I got nothin'
Maybe talk to the current boyfriend about it, and see if you couldn't arrange a civil meeting where you can hand have ex, bf, and dog all together for a little while?
Maybe that only happens in the movies though...
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